If you’re autistic (or wondering whether you might be), you may have heard the word masking. You might even have thought, “I don’t think I mask… I’m just coping like everyone else.” But masking can be subtle. It can feel normal. It can feel necessary. And over time, it can become so automatic that youContinueContinue reading “Autism and masking in adults: How to recognise signs”
Category Archives: neurodivergent life
The hidden links between inattentive ADHD and binge drinking
If you live with inattentive ADHD, you might have a complicated relationship with alcohol — maybe it’s been a way to unwind, fit in, or switch off from the constant noise of your own mind. You might even find yourself in cycles of binge drinking that you didn’t intend, leaving you wondering why it keepsContinueContinue reading “The hidden links between inattentive ADHD and binge drinking”
PDA: More than avoidance, it’s a fight for autonomy
When you hear the term Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), it can sound heavy, clinical, and perhaps even a little stigmatising. An alternative way to look at it is through the lens of a Persistent Drive for Autonomy. This shift in framing allows us to focus less on what’s ‘wrong’ and more on what’s being expressed:ContinueContinue reading “PDA: More than avoidance, it’s a fight for autonomy”
How to use momentum to fuel your motivation
We all have days when getting out of bed feels like scaling a mountain. When motivation is fleeting, it’s tempting to wait… until tomorrow, until “the mood strikes,” until some external muse arrives to save you. But the truth is, you don’t have to wait for motivation to magically appear. You can generate it yourselfContinueContinue reading “How to use momentum to fuel your motivation”
Essentials of change: Why process beats pressure for ND people
Change is one of those things we all say we want—but somehow very few of us find it easy. Pressure to transform fast, to be the “better version” of ourselves overnight, can loom large. But meaningful, lasting change usually doesn’t happen through a button press. As psychotherapist Moya Sarner writes in The Guardian, we instinctivelyContinueContinue reading “Essentials of change: Why process beats pressure for ND people”
Change process and neurodivergence: Practical tools for different neurotypes
Navigating the change process and neurodivergence can feel like a constant uphill climb. The change process can feel like a huge, messy mountain to climb. Maybe you’ve tried to set goals or break habits before and ended up overwhelmed, burnt out, or feeling like you failed. The truth is, the usual “one-size-fits-all” advice doesn’t workContinueContinue reading “Change process and neurodivergence: Practical tools for different neurotypes”
How to be kind to yourself when it feels like an alien concept
For many neurodivergent people, the idea of being kind to yourself can feel unfamiliar, even uncomfortable. You might know the words, but the practice itself may seem distant — as though kindness is something you extend to others but not to yourself. If this resonates, you are not alone. In this blog, we’ll explore whyContinueContinue reading “How to be kind to yourself when it feels like an alien concept”
Tapping for neurodivergent minds: A simple tool to calm a busy brain
Tapping is a gentle, practical way to calm a busy brain, and it can be especially helpful for neurodivergent minds. If you live with a neurodivergent brain — ADHD, autism, dyslexia, dyspraxia, or anything else that means your brain works a little differently — you’ll know how exhausting it can be when your nervous systemContinueContinue reading “Tapping for neurodivergent minds: A simple tool to calm a busy brain”