Confused about autistic inertia vs ADHD task paralysis? Learn the difference, how to tell, and why you’re not lazy if you’re AuDHD. If you’re AuDHD, you may find yourself asking: Why can’t I start tasks? Why do I freeze when I care so much? Is this autistic inertia or ADHD task paralysis? Or am IContinueContinue reading “Autistic Inertia vs ADHD Task Paralysis: Why it matters when You’re AuDHD”
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How to start unmasking without blowing up your life
How to unmask autism safely (without burning bridges or burning out) If you’ve spent years masking, the idea of unmasking can feel equal parts liberating and terrifying. You might long to feel more like yourself, and at the same time worry about what will happen to your work, relationships, or reputation. If you’re wondering howContinueContinue reading “How to start unmasking without blowing up your life”
Essentials of change: Why process beats pressure for ND people
Change is one of those things we all say we want—but somehow very few of us find it easy. Pressure to transform fast, to be the “better version” of ourselves overnight, can loom large. But meaningful, lasting change usually doesn’t happen through a button press. As psychotherapist Moya Sarner writes in The Guardian, we instinctivelyContinueContinue reading “Essentials of change: Why process beats pressure for ND people”
How to be kind to yourself when it feels like an alien concept
For many neurodivergent people, the idea of being kind to yourself can feel unfamiliar, even uncomfortable. You might know the words, but the practice itself may seem distant — as though kindness is something you extend to others but not to yourself. If this resonates, you are not alone. In this blog, we’ll explore whyContinueContinue reading “How to be kind to yourself when it feels like an alien concept”
Moving beyond limerence: 5 Steps to reclaim energy and purpose
If you’ve ever found yourself completely swept up in thoughts about another person – checking your phone constantly, replaying conversations in your head, and feeling a powerful emotional pull that you can’t switch off – you may have experienced limerence. Limerence is that intense, obsessive attachment to someone (sometimes called the limerent object). It canContinueContinue reading “Moving beyond limerence: 5 Steps to reclaim energy and purpose”
Autistic shutdowns, meltdowns, and social conditioning: what’s going on there?
When we speak of autistic shutdowns and meltdowns, we’re referring to two very different responses to overwhelming stress—and yet they’re often misunderstood or conflated. In this post, we’ll clarify the difference as described in Dr Devon Price’s Unmasking Autism, explore how social conditioning shapes who “gets away” with emotional expression and who doesn’t, how thatContinueContinue reading “Autistic shutdowns, meltdowns, and social conditioning: what’s going on there?”
Managing anger: 10 techniques that actually work for neurodivergent minds
Anger isn’t a bad emotion. It’s your system letting you know something doesn’t feel right. But when you’re neurodivergent, managing anger can feel especially difficult—especially when you’re already dealing with sensory overload, unexpected changes, miscommunication, or other people not understanding how you experience the world. Maybe you feel like you go from calm to rageContinueContinue reading “Managing anger: 10 techniques that actually work for neurodivergent minds”
HALT triggers (hungry, angry, lonely, tired) survival kit: Neurodivergent edition
If you’ve ever felt like your emotions go from 0 to 100 without warning, or that small things tip you over the edge when you’re already holding so much, it might be time to get curious about HALT triggers. HALT stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired – four states that can seriously impact your emotionalContinueContinue reading “HALT triggers (hungry, angry, lonely, tired) survival kit: Neurodivergent edition”