Change is one of those things we all say we want—but somehow very few of us find it easy. Pressure to transform fast, to be the “better version” of ourselves overnight, can loom large. But meaningful, lasting change usually doesn’t happen through a button press. As psychotherapist Moya Sarner writes in The Guardian, we instinctivelyContinueContinue reading “Essentials of change: Why process beats pressure for ND people”
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Change process and neurodivergence: Practical tools for different neurotypes
Navigating the change process and neurodivergence can feel like a constant uphill climb. The change process can feel like a huge, messy mountain to climb. Maybe you’ve tried to set goals or break habits before and ended up overwhelmed, burnt out, or feeling like you failed. The truth is, the usual “one-size-fits-all” advice doesn’t workContinueContinue reading “Change process and neurodivergence: Practical tools for different neurotypes”
How to be kind to yourself when it feels like an alien concept
For many neurodivergent people, the idea of being kind to yourself can feel unfamiliar, even uncomfortable. You might know the words, but the practice itself may seem distant — as though kindness is something you extend to others but not to yourself. If this resonates, you are not alone. In this blog, we’ll explore whyContinueContinue reading “How to be kind to yourself when it feels like an alien concept”
Tapping for neurodivergent minds: A simple tool to calm a busy brain
Tapping is a gentle, practical way to calm a busy brain, and it can be especially helpful for neurodivergent minds. If you live with a neurodivergent brain — ADHD, autism, dyslexia, dyspraxia, or anything else that means your brain works a little differently — you’ll know how exhausting it can be when your nervous systemContinueContinue reading “Tapping for neurodivergent minds: A simple tool to calm a busy brain”
Stress & body dysphoria: A neurodivergent survival guide for NBs
Stress and body dysphoria often go hand in hand, and for non-binary people who are also neurodivergent, the combination can feel overwhelming. Stress can heighten the intensity of dysphoria, making it harder to manage daily life. The good news is that by understanding the link between stress and body dysphoria, you can find tools thatContinueContinue reading “Stress & body dysphoria: A neurodivergent survival guide for NBs”
Moving beyond limerence: 5 Steps to reclaim energy and purpose
If you’ve ever found yourself completely swept up in thoughts about another person – checking your phone constantly, replaying conversations in your head, and feeling a powerful emotional pull that you can’t switch off – you may have experienced limerence. Limerence is that intense, obsessive attachment to someone (sometimes called the limerent object). It canContinueContinue reading “Moving beyond limerence: 5 Steps to reclaim energy and purpose”
Managing intense emotions: Practical ways to regain balance
We all feel emotions deeply at times, but for many neurodivergent people, those emotions can arrive like a tidal wave – fast, powerful, and overwhelming. Learning ways of managing intense emotions doesn’t mean shutting them down or pretending they don’t exist. Instead, it’s about finding ways to ride the wave safely and come back toContinueContinue reading “Managing intense emotions: Practical ways to regain balance”
Autistic shutdowns, meltdowns, and social conditioning: what’s going on there?
When we speak of autistic shutdowns and meltdowns, we’re referring to two very different responses to overwhelming stress—and yet they’re often misunderstood or conflated. In this post, we’ll clarify the difference as described in Dr Devon Price’s Unmasking Autism, explore how social conditioning shapes who “gets away” with emotional expression and who doesn’t, how thatContinueContinue reading “Autistic shutdowns, meltdowns, and social conditioning: what’s going on there?”